A toxic series of secretive Facebook groups, containing thousands of bitter women, has arrived. The shady campaign that seemingly started with good intentions, to protect women, has since became a hotbed of finger-licking revenge, faux compassion, and machiavellianism. It’s called, ‘Are we dating the same guy?’ It’s the name given to the countless groups popping up in many of the world’s major cities, each boasting tens, or even hundreds of thousands of members. If you’re able to sneak into one, you’ll likely find a grim primordial soup of resentment and anger; as vengeful single women share the names, photos, and even home addresses of men who have wronged them on the dating market. A place where insecure and power-hungry narcissists compare notes on how to deceive, stalk and surveil men; and flagellate themselves with sad stories of rejection, and inadequacy. Have you ghosted a woman? Were you selfish in bed? Did you make an inappropriate joke? Perhaps you did nothing wrong at all? It doesn’t matter. It won’t protect you from being strung up and pulled apart within the kangaroo courts, and pity parties of AWDTSG; whose secret members act as judge, jury and executioner to tens of thousands of men. The lives of such men have already been torn down, destroyed, and even lost, in the name of so-called ‘women’s safety’. But some of these women have fought back; leaking the hidden conversations, and blowing the whistle on the whispering campaigns, and terrifying trials within. So where do we go from here? Is AWDTSG really about protecting women, or is it about hurting men? What do you think? ~ Images by Becca Tapart, and Shubham Dhage. #datingadvice #onlineabuse

2024-01-05