For so long, violence by women has been seen as a joke. Something to roll your eyes, laugh, and smile at; the butt of a thousand SitComs gags, the target of endless excuses, and outrageous rebukes of ‘its not that bad’, ‘she didn’t mean to’, ‘he deserved it’, etc. So many people think, a man who is being abused by his female partner has to simply endure it, to hide and run away. Some think a man who does so is weak. Others believe a mans physical strength makes him impervious to such acts of violence by a woman, and we needn’t spare a moments thought. Well, it was only a few weeks ago, when I was contacted by the wife of a man who was formerly in the SAS, who in a previous relationship was driven to a suicide attempt due to abuse against him. This is a man trained to kill, and endure, by the most elite special forces on the planet, being driven to a suicide attempt by a woman half his size. Clearly our notion of violent, abusive women is not quite right. So do popular depictions of female violence against men have to change? And how can we ever expect male victims of abuse to seek help, when all they see is this sicking parade of jokes, skits and minimisation, with them as the protagonist? What do you think? Discussing with Travis from @anothernobodytm full discussion here https://tinyurl.com/3h35hz4s

2026-03-17