There are few hornets’ nests bigger than that of the male sexual abuse victim. A man who so few want to talk about, who sadly, seems far more likely to face condemnation, mockery, and disbelief, than he is sympathy and compassion. One in six men will face sexual abuse in their lifetime. It is a number far higher than we believe, largely because these millions of men are bullied into silence, sneered at, pilloried, and mocked; often holding onto their traumatic experiences for decades before disclosing, if they ever do at all. Yet, there is someone who often faces an even larger stigma than the male victim of sexual abuse, and that is, the male victim of female perpetration – known by many as the “hidden hidden victim of sexual abuse”. Hidden first by our reluctance to acknowledge male victims of SA, and hidden a second time by our reluctance to acknowledge female perpetrators. So, let’s talk about them, and start to turn the page on a societal stigma that has silenced so many men and boys, for so long. Dear men who have experienced SA (by either sex), tell us about your experiences… #malevictims #mentoo

2026-01-09