Bilateral violence is arguably the greatest predictor we have for identifying victims of abuse, and is the form of intimate partner violence that leads to the highest rates of injury… and yet, the domestic violence sector widely denies it even exists.
Imagine that. The thing that could reveal the largest number of victims, who are most at risk to injury, is being ignored due to it being politically unpopular. It’s hard to even comprehend something so backward, and corrupt, and yet, that seems to be what is happening right now. I know it’s unpopular to say – But partner violence rarely fits into the binary female damsel vs male villain cartoon as we are so often sold. In reality, it is a blurry phenomenon that requires nuanced understanding and diverse interventions. Whatever your view, surely we can agree our narrow view of intimate partner abuse, which obsesses solely over ‘male violence’, cannot continue as it is. Such a view harms everyone, including women, and helps only the organisations, academics, and politicians, who have used such an ideology as a meal ticket for generations. So, let me show you the data and the ugly secrets they try to hide... Let’s treat the issue not the gender. What do you think? Watch my new podcast with leading coercive control researcher, professor Nicola Graham Kevan2026-08-24