In 2010 professor Murray Straus, founder of the field family violence research, and the world’s leading expert, presented more than 200 studies, taken over thirty years, that found ‘gender parity’ in victimhood of intimate partner violence. Two years later, in 2012, professor Sarah Desmarais, summarized 249 studies, showing that 21.6% of men, an 28.3% of women reported perpetrating violence in an intimate relationship. Two years after that, 2014, professor Martin Fiebert created a bibliography of 343 studies, that found women ‘are as physically aggressive as men (or more)’ in intimate relationships. During this time, the world’s largest database of domestic violence data, the Partner Abuse State of Knowledge (PASK) summarized ONE THOUSAND SEVEN HUNDRED papers, and yup, the same. The PASK, took 117 statistical comparisons across 49 countries, and found that in 63% of comparisons, rates of violence by women toward male partners were higher (or the same) as men’s violence against female partners. Add to that, every single national survey ever done by the CDC (the NISVS) has found equal victimization rates too, and soon you will find yourself at the foot of a giant mountain of data, that nobody gives a fuck about. It’s just kindling. And if you ever present it, you will be serenaded with shrill shrieks and squeals, as the cult of outage, rolls into town. So I’ve given up trying to prove to you that intimate partner violence is not gendered, as if 1,700 papers, and the testimony of world leading experts won’t do it, nothing will. Instead I now ask – why does nobody believe the data? Why are we so scared to admit to something, that in scientific terms, is as obvious and mundane as ‘water is wet’. Why are we so afraid to simply say, that women really can do anything a man can, and yes, that includes intimate partner violence. What do you think? ~ Straus https://tinyurl.com/3szpncnp Desmarais https://tinyurl.com/4djswy3c Fiebert https://tinyurl.com/3zebp5cj

2026-02-02