It was as a spoonful of peas “flew” toward my two-year-old mouth, that I first learnt that the lesson of – what I want, and what I need are not always the same thing. I relearn this lesson pretty much on a daily basis – and I wish more people would too. For life has many uncomfortable lessons, and hard-to-hear realities; each to be sat with, chewed upon, and quietly considered. Things we may not want to hear, but remain true none the less. This is perhaps most salient within the discussion of domestic violence, where mountains of research now points us toward the unpalatable reality that – actually, women are *equally as violent in relationships* as men are. What. Yuck. Gross. Ew, the taste. So we spit it out. Women equally likely to perpetrate domestic abuse? That doesn’t feel good, that doesn’t sound right, it wasn’t what I was told, or led to believe. The virtue squad and all their social currency will crucify me for saying such a thing. It’s upsetting. Offensive. But entirely accurate. But like I said, what we want to hear and what we need to hear, are often not the same. And yes there are many vegetables to wince, grimace and splutter over here at @thetinmen, so what do you find hardest to swallow? ~ Source Straus Study Fiebert Study Images by The DK Photography, Mock Up Graphics, Mae Mu, Marios Gkortsilas, and Heath Ford from Unsplash. #domesticabuse #domesticviolence

2022-12-10