The world continues to insist upon a very reductive, exclusionary, and cartoonish view of intimate partner violence, centered on the scourge of “male violence.” Such an issue is certainly important. But the true nature of partner violence isn’t quite so simple. In fact, only about 15% of all partner violence can be accurately described as unilateral “male-only” violence - the kind that conventional wisdom has become so familiar with and infatuated by. Even more shocking is that only one third of that 15% (so 5% overall) is classified as “severe” male-only violence, which is the common trope so often wheeled out on TV programmes, and onto social media, dispatch boxes, debate panels, or scorched onto newspaper headlines. Meanwhile, around 50% of all partner violence is classified not as “male violence” but as “bilateral” or “reciprocal,” where both partners are simultaneously victims and perpetrators, locked in a cycle of violence that slowly escalates. The final chunk is, of course, the wildly contentious “female-only” violence, which many people still refuse to talk about at all, and will frequently scold or insult those who attempt to. And so, sadly, it’s not surprising that intimate partner violence continues to beleaguer the world, considering we’re looking at it through an ideological keyhole that excludes 85% of the problem entirely. To solve a problem, you have to look at all sides. So isn’t it time to treat the issue, rather than the gender? What do you think? ~ Discussing with Travis from @anothernobodytm full discussion here https://tinyurl.com/3h35hz4s Source https://tinyurl.com/5d8mbt5h Footage by The Point Production, Volkan Yilmaz, and Charles Parker

2026-03-12