I’m going to say something that is entirely uncontroversial; sex is often an important part of a person’s mental and physical wellbeing. I know. Crazy right? All too often, such a mundane and obvious statement draws squeals and screams of ‘male entitlement’, ‘toxic masculinity’, and you will likely find yourself dubbed an ‘incel’. But the truth is self-evident – a healthy sex life is a corner stone to a healthy relationship, family, marriage, and life in general. So many men struggle to say these things. Their needs drowned out by shrill whines of social media brats, so-called sex positive ‘get your bag girl’ influencers; who rightly champion women’s sexual liberation… Yet these same people backward somersault into tiresome anti-male catch phrases, at the mere mention of men needing these very same things. These people could be slapped across the face with their own hypocrisy and still wouldn’t feel it, and continue to broadcast their own ignorance to the world without even a shred of self-awareness. Meanwhile – collaborators of mine, deeply embedded into research on male suicide, have told me again and again, about the men who yearn to feel any kind of physical intimacy, but struggle to share this need, for fear of sounding like they’re ‘entitled to sex’. And it’s not even about sex, it’s about the feeling of being physically desired. The truly sad thing is that whilst so many men need this, women have sexual attention dumped on their heads by strangers at bus stops, and misogynists from car windows. It is a problem where through their lens of personal experience, so many men and women struggle to understand the other; like a person in the desert crying out for water, talking to someone drowning in the ocean, looking for land… So to the guys, who are never asked, when did you last feel sexually desired? And how important is to you, to feel this way? What do you think? #sexualhealth #sexlife #mensmentalhealth #fyp #mensmentalhealthawareness

2024-04-05