Toxic, fragile, progressive, dominance based, healthy, violent, oppressive… Take your pick. Masculinity now comes in countless new flavours, each one making even less sense than the last. To be honest, it’s a conversation I’ve never been interested in. It’s one I’ll leave for the man-banned masculinity influencers, the podcast bros, the ivory tower professors, the “woke” politicians, and of course, the feminist mob. Masculinity is just male typical behavior and interests. Beyond that, I don’t know what masculinity is. However, I do know how many men will take their lives today. I know how many boys will fail their GCSEs and drop out of school. I know how many boys will be stabbed on our streets, how many will turn to crime, or addiction, or fall into homelessness. I know how many will die young. I know how many men and boys are being abused or sexually exploited. I know these things, and many more, all of which are incomparably more important than whatever the f**k masculinity is. Who cares if boys want to play with trucks, or Barbie dolls; who cares if they wear blue or pink; if they want to put on make up, or spend their days climbing trees. What matters is helping men and boys live happy, healthy lives, and whatever ‘masculinity’ is the result, is surely the right kind. That’s where our attention should be spent. Because, if masculinity is a performance, then I think it’s time we peered behind the curtain. So let’s take a look…

2026-04-24